BENEVOLENCE - GOOD OR BAD?

IS HELPING OTHERS A SIN?

🐝 See this innocent but quite dangerous 'Bee' came & stuck on my laptop...- Sometimes people really wanna help but because of their nature, they can't.

How many of you helped such creatures?

Of course, your answer would be no.

But you have not thought upon this why you never help them, you simply follow this habit in your behavior since a childhood that you are not supposed to help them, because they might harm you. This gradually becomes your practice. So this was all about human thinking, the way of your socialization takes place. But this is among the very common habit of every individual to ignore the problems of creatures like this Honey Bee, Lions, Tiger; Snakes because when you help them, there are  99% chances, that they would harm you. You would get your reward for benevolence as a harmful action by these creatures. That's why humans do not generally help such creatures. However, this tendency of harming others who helped you is common among humans too. 

Have you thought about this matter?

There are many people who took help when they are in need, and then instead of giving something good in return, they simply harm you. This is such killing of humanity in this world. Sometimes your kind and helping nature would create trouble for you, just because these clever people, humanity is dying gradually. People started thinking the same about all others, that all are clever and mean in this world.

I experience the same thing personally many times, as I am the follower of "BK Shivani Ji" so I usually cannot stop me to help others. As she always conveys the message of the "Law of Karma", so I always think that if today I am helping someone, then definitely I will get its result in some other & unexpected ways in the future, because the "Law of Karma" would definitely work. And so I usually help everyone. 

Wants to share one heart touching experience, One Man was there, He loves his brother very much, he is doing everything for his brother & brother's family, give them more than enough money & amenities, Now, they are in their 60's, and still, that man is fulfilling every need of his brother, brother's wife, brother's children. Now the shameful thing about that brother and his family, I felt is that they all are cheating on that Man & fooling him. If the blood relations are like this, then we can't trust others. It's such a killing of humanity & blood relations. But the most important twist of this story is that, now that brother & his family is speaking abusive to that man, treating him badly, torturing him in many ways, and so on. As they have their ancestor's land to live & have a common water supply, now that brother denied to give the water supply to that man. It really sounds disgusting right. Instead of being thankfully he interrupted the water supply. Now see the result of helping with open heart but closed mind. This incident I am sharing to put my views here, that you should not help people unnecessarily, either they are your sibling or other relations.You should help needy ones only. Because here this incident insist us not to over help someone. 

Humans are falling into the category of these dangerous creatures, because of their cleverness & cruel nature. For instance, if you help someone, but instead of being thankful to you, that person behaves like an arrogant one as he did not take any kind of help from you. And pretended to be innocent.

 In one of my experiences, when I joined my first job, I met one friend. She said that she is also searching for a job like mine. Then at the same moment, I recommend her mine working place, as there was a vacant place, and so I took her there and complete all the formalities. Her interview was scheduled and she joined the same institute. Then as she had not her personal vehicle so I used to pick & drop her. But instead of being thankful to me, she started backbiting about me to others, always proving herself superior, and many more. Then I slowly stopped talking to her and was forced to think that, is it the right way to treat someone who helped you when you are in trouble? And after this incident, I was forced to think, that I helped her or did any crime?

Another experience is of my colleague, in my working place. She is one of the experienced ladies in that working place and I was the fresher, So the In-charge of our staff always suggest me to ask for any kind of help to her. Then I thought she must be very talented and of course good in leadership, that’s why My In-charge suggests me to take help from her. But as the days passing and I started to ask for help, every time I got disappointed. As these were my starting months of organizing the things and work. So, I really needed the guidance of some experienced person. But gradually I started realizing, that lady is so arrogant and cheap thinker. I learned to manage & organize things by myself. I stopped asking for help from anyone. Because those few impressions made by her changed my thinking. I was forced to think that still humanity is left or not? But you know after a few months of experience, now she is asking for help from me. And don’t know why I am helping her. It’s all about humanity and the “Law of Karma” which I follow the most. There are many examples of such people who are really selfish and mean.

I know many of you also have such bitter experiences in your life story, which too forced you to think over that, and insist you not to help others again. But I felt that it makes you a selfish person if you don't help others. We should always help others, by taking some precautions, if it is with creatures like lions and all, which can harm you, then you can help them by taking few precautions or can call the forest department staff. But if it is the time to help the humans, then always help the people who are needy, who really wants your help, who would be thankful to you, who can at least gives the blessing to you in return. But the condition is that at that time your mind & heart should be open, so that no one at least can cheat you.

DO's:-

1. Help others with your mind open.

2. The limit should be there.

3. Help the needy ones only, who can be thankful to you & give you blessings.

4. Help those you really want help, In case, when without your help they cannot do anything.

 

DON'T's:-

1. Don't help the people who already cheating on others.

2. Don't help the people who are the culprit & want to save themselves with your help.

3. Don't help the lazy people, who cannot help themselves, & taking unnecessary help. It's just a waste of time.

4. Don't help the people, who are doing anything bad or illegal, if you help such people, you would  be the part of that crime.

5. Don't help the people just for appreciation, seeking the attention of others, becoming popular, or just to show off.

6. Don't help anyone to please him/her, it is the biggest sin. Here you are selfish & mean.

7. Don't help people unnecessarily, it makes them lazy.

 

"Help people even when you know they can't help you back."

Image Courtesy- Ankita Singh