Upbringing of children

"Children must be taught how to think not what to think"

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them,

But seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children

As living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,

And He bends you with His might

That His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies,

So He loves also the bow that is stable.

If we saw these lines, then we recall those killer moments of our life where we couldn't make the decisions by our self for us, as our society, our parents do not give that much freedom. Parents thought that our children should think about what we think; our children should do whatever we have decided for them. But it is not the way of upbringing children; children must be taught how to think not what to think. We should tell children our own experiences, our failures, our success, our learning, and introduce the realities of the world and life to them. We should give them freedom, let them explore themselves; let them learn everything by their own experiences. We should try to make their thinking wide, so they can make their own decisions based on their learning experiences.

Give freedom to your children; let them enjoy their childhood because it would create a better future for them. They can make their own decisions in the future.

A great example comes from "Bhagwad Geeta" of "Guru Dron and his Son Ashwasthama", "Guru Dron" always used to the thought that He can give every happiness to his son but He did not teach his son how to live life with self-independence. So try to give those teachings to your children which can help them to think wide and good, do not impose your own decisions on them, it may be their studies, their career, their marriage or anything else.

Life is very short, don't impose your own decisions on your children, and because it makes them helpless and this feeling of helplessness never makes a good personality. Try to make them comfortable with you as a friend, help them in taking their decisions, and give them emotional support so that they can become an emotionally stable personality, an independent human being, a decent personality.

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